Why am I passionate about this?

I’ve been a very sexual woman since my twenties, and provided sex education for women as a young feminist. When I embarked on a fun dating project in my late fifties to date 50 men in order to find the right partner for me, I knew that many of my dates would include sexual encounters. My upbeat memoir about that project, Fifty First Dates After Fifty, includes the sex scenes, because I wanted to provide healthy, satisfying images of older women enjoying sex so that our sexuality would be validated and visible to each other and the world. The sex-positive books I recommend celebrate the variety of women’s sexuality.


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Fifty First Dates After Fifty: A Memoir

By Carolyn Lee Arnold,

Book cover of Fifty First Dates After Fifty: A Memoir

What is my book about?

What does a free-spirited, fifty-something professional do when she breaks up with her non-committal boyfriend and longs for a life…

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Naked Truth: A Memoir

Carolyn Lee Arnold Why did I love this book?

I love this memoir because Leslie Morgan is a wise, funny, articulate, sex-positive, feminist BFF, who shares her emotional and sexual journey in the year after divorce and before turning 50 with pride rather than shame as she renounces the drab ex-wife role, dresses alluringly, and dates wildly.

Writing about sex and dating can be a cliché-ridden minefield, but Morgan enlivens the highs, lows, and middles with metaphors that resonate and invite you into the scene. And it’s not just about sex – it’s about the emotional truths that she learns along the way as she demonstrates an enjoyable way for older women to reclaim their sexual mojo and feel valued as an older woman. 

By Leslie Morgan Steiner,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Naked Truth as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Newly divorced and determined to reclaim her life, Leslie Morgan, bestselling author of Crazy Love and Mommy Wars, decided to spend a year searching for five new lovers in this "highly stimulating story of a midlife education" and "steamy, liberating tale of self-exploration and self-love" (Kirkus Reviews).

When Leslie Morgan divorced after a twenty-year marriage, both her self-esteem and romantic optimism were shattered. She was determined to avoid the cliche of the "lonely, middle-aged divorcee" lamenting her stretch marks and begging her kids to craft her online dating profile. Instead, Leslie celebrated her independence with an audacious plan: she would…


Book cover of The Wild Oats Project: One Woman's Midlife Quest for Passion at Any Cost

Carolyn Lee Arnold Why did I love this book?

I love this memoir because Robin Rinaldi fiercely loves and trusts herself for being sexual, and shows us from the inside what it means to positively claim our sexuality in midlife.

Rinaldi undertook a brave and vulnerable journey—a year-long break from her companionable but passionless marriage to find passion by pursuing a variety of sexual traditions and relationships with men. Her story is not only an entertaining page-turner, but deeply vulnerable and satisfying. 

She chronicles her heart as well as her body, and reminds us that it is not always easy to take risks—there are challenges, heartaches, and rewards in creating a deeply satisfying life. Further modeling bravery, she also wrote an Atlantic article about transcending the slut shaming she received from writing the book.  

By Robin Rinaldi,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Wild Oats Project as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

What if for just one year you let desire call the shots?

The project was simple: Robin Rinaldi, a successful magazine journalist, would move into a San Francisco apartment, join a dating site, and get laid. Never mind that she already owned a beautiful flat a few blocks away, that she was forty-four, or that she was married to a man she'd been in love with for eighteen years. What followed-a year of abandon, heartbreak, and unexpected revelation-is the topic of this riveting memoir, The Wild Oats Project.

Monogamous and sexually cautious her entire adult life, Rinaldi never planned on…


Book cover of The Erotic Pandemic Ball

Carolyn Lee Arnold Why did I love this book?

Delightful sexuality in a senior community! What better place to celebrate the different ways that women over 60 can enjoy a happy sex life—with themselves, men, women, or supernatural beings—than in a retirement community during the Pandemic lockdown? 

Stella Fosse skillfully and delightfully weaves stories of confident older women isolated in their cottages, alone or with partners, who know or discover what they want sexually, and find ways to pleasure themselves or others. Although residents are only allowed to wave at each other during their daily masked and distanced walk around the grounds, the more adventurous ones find ways to connect.

The stories all come together and culminate in a joyful post-pandemic unmasking at a romantic ball. Very sweet and positive!  

By Stella Fosse,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Erotic Pandemic Ball as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Boldly reimagining lockdown lust.

When an idyllic senior neighborhood quarantines for the pandemic, friendly vampires, sex-starved demons, and a time-traveling Madam reinvent love in lockdown. People paid good money to buy into Southern Glen - an idyllic senior community with gyms, cafes, fun classes and beautiful grounds. Online dating was a blast.


Then came the pandemic: Nobody got in and nobody got out. How on Earth would they get it on? Stella Fosse (author of Aphrodite's Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica After Midlife) takes us on a wild ride in thirteen wild pandemic adventures, the unsinkable residents of Southern…


Book cover of Unmasked: Women Write About Sex and Intimacy After Fifty

Carolyn Lee Arnold Why did I love this book?

I love this anthology by women over fifty because it offers such a wide range of truths about our experiences with sex and intimate relationships.

More than fifty essays and poems cover a variety of honest reflections on the exquisite, the good, the not-so-good, and the challenging parts of older women relating sexually to men, to women, and to themselves.

Feelings expressed range from the ambivalence, disappointment, and ecstasy of dating, to the pleasures of being single, to the joy of long-term sex and commitment, to the acceptance of the sometimes sudden movement between these states. Can be read in one or two delicious gulps! 

By Marcia Meier (editor), Kathleen A Barry (editor),

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Unmasked as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Women over fifty are "the invisible woman" in American culture. In a society that reveres youth - and particularly young, sexy women - women over fifty fade into the shadows. Yet, for many women at mid-life, this is a time of flowering and coming into one's own, sexually and otherwise. Many older women love sex and crave the intimacy it provides. For every story of a harried mother who turns her husband away at night, or the older woman who long ago lost her libido, there are legions of others whose sex drives match those of men.

A recent study…


Book cover of Ageless Erotica

Carolyn Lee Arnold Why did I love this book?

I recommend this hot and sexy collection of erotic fiction and memoir because for me it doubles as a source of arousal and a mesmerizing glimpse of the range of sexual activities that seniors (mostly hetero, some lesbians, some gay men) imagine and carry out.

From the slow sex of long-term lovers, to hand jobs offered despite arthritic hands or carpel tunnel, to the variety of ways married couples orchestrate hot love-making, to the pleasure of “in-the-meantime” lovers, these stories sizzle and burn. They expand our view of what is sexually possible as we age, and provide an inspiring and stimulating bedside reference for singles and couples of all ages.

To be savored one story at a time, not gulped down as a whole. 

By Joan Price (editor),

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Ageless Erotica as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Ageless Erotica is a steamy anthology of erotic stories and memoir essays written for a mature audience by writers over the age of 50. Edited by senior sex expert and advocate Joan Price, this collection is full of erotica seniors can relate to,embracing the agelessness of sexuality while still encompassing the changes that accompany aging. Some selections are tender and loving, while others are edgy and kinky. But whether characters are going solo, having spicy sex with partners they love and have loved for decades, or engaging in casual encounters, every story included in these pages aims to arouse and…


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Fifty First Dates After Fifty: A Memoir

By Carolyn Lee Arnold,

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What is my book about?

What does a free-spirited, fifty-something professional do when she breaks up with her non-committal boyfriend and longs for a life partner? She challenges herself to go on fifty first dates, promises herself steamy sex along the way, and voila, finding Mr. Right becomes a sexy dating project!

Winner of 10 awards in the areas of relationships, sexuality, women’s issues, and memoir, Fifty First Dates after Fifty: A Memoir celebrates female sexuality and offers an uplifting and inspirational view of dating as an enjoyable journey of self-discovery and self-love. An upbeat story about a successful search for a partner in midlife, it provides an entertaining smorgasbord of dating ideas for any woman searching for her own Mr. Right.

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